Sex Talks
I loved Sex Talks: The Five Conversations that Will Transform Your Love Life by Vanessa Marin. She’s a sex therapist and this book is a really great start for people in relationships who want to improve their sex lives. I particularly appreciated her transparency about sexual difficulties in her own marriage and her partner’s commentary. The five sex talks are:
Acknowledging your sex life—exploring yours and your partner’s feelings about sex broadly and sharing some positive sexual memories
Figuring out if sex creates emotional intimacy or emotional intimacy leads to sex—what creates connection and emotional intimacy?
Creating desire—what are your turn-ons and turn-offs (s/o Emily Nagowski—accelerators and brakes)?
Creating pleasure—what feels good?
What should we try next/explore?
She has great tips about how to approach each of these conversations. I’d highly recommend that people in long-term relationships read this book.
